4 Secrets to finding your confidence
Self-confidence is understanding that you trust your own judgment and abilities and that you value yourself regardless of any imperfections
Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it. Stan Smith
According to the university of south Florida, Self-confidence is an attitude about your skills and abilities. It means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life. You know your strengths and weakness well, and have a positive view of yourself. You set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and can handle criticism.
4 secrets to finding your Confidence
1. Visualize: Imagine Confidence
There are many ways that we can visualize our successes. One common and effective way is to close your eyes and relax your body completely. Relax and paint a picture of yourself riding a horse, going to a job interview or, speaking in a public place visualize yourself doing whatever activity for which you would like more confidence. Allow the feelings of a comfortable presence to overtake your body and your mind.
There is also another popular visualization method which includes creating a vision board. This vision board can be a poster board, a piece of paper, the back of a cardboard box, or anything you have. On the vision, boards include pictures that illustrate what you desire in your life. For me, it was photos of happiness, dresses, shoes, dream home, future lifestyle, and family. On my vision boards, I also posted quotes that expressed what I wanted and I read them every single day.
2. Think positively about yourself.
Remind yourself that, despite your struggles, and insecurities you are a unique, special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. You are, after all, a wonderful gift to the people around you. Identify and challenge any negative thoughts about yourself instead of saying ‘I’m a loser’, say ‘I am searching for my successes’ or instead of saying ‘I never do anything right’, say ‘I am still learning and I will soon get it right’ instead of saying ‘No one really likes me’. ‘Say I am still working on my friendships.’
Tell yourself you look good. Tell yourself you did a great job at work or raising your kids or whatever it is you do. Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. Telling yourself that you are doing your best will generate confidence and will help you have a positive and successful life.
3. Get to know yourself.
Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
You can also try creating a mission; something that you would like to accomplish. When considering your mission, think about how it makes you feel, it should make you feel authentic, excited, and passionate. Once you have a mission in mind hold on to that vision set your negative thoughts, and limitations aside, and do your best to accomplish it.
4. The mental aspect of self-confidence
We are all human which means that we are going to have days in which we don’t feel confident, but there is a way that you can appear confident when need to. Smiling and using a steady voice are good examples of showing confidence.
We can sometimes say things with our body language without realizing it. So if you're not feeling confident you need to situp straight and say to yourself "I got this" and with the attitude of I got this you can do almost anything you put your mind to. To truly learn how to build confidence, take pride in your values. Because they are what make you unique.
Confidence is the most beautiful thing you can possess.- Sabrina Carpenter
Confidence is a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life's challenges and to succeed—and the willingness to act accordingly. Being confident requires a realistic sense of one’s capabilities and feeling secure in that knowledge.
Projecting confidence helps people gain credibility, make a strong first impression, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges. It’s also an attractive trait, as confidence helps put others at ease.
Continuing your confidence
When you feel confident about yourself, you believe you have an important and meaningful place in the world, giving you a positive attitude. When you're confident, you know what you excel at and that you have value. Also, remember that it is important to get out of our comfort zone and have new experiences. Try doing something that intimidates you. Go to a bar alone to make new friends. Try a new workout routine at the gym. Take up a hobby that you've always felt nervous about. Push yourself intellectually. Read a difficult book. Take a class in an unfamiliar subject area. Whatever you decide to do just remember to be yourself and have fun.
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